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Considering Divorce? You Need an Exit Plan!
Save Your Marriage , Little Known Divorce Secrets
If you’re considering leaving your spouse, you need a solid exit plan. More than fifty percent of all marriages end in divorce. And if that isn’t bad enough, women are the hardest hit as a result. In fact, most women are in a worse place financially after it’s all said and done. With this said, you don’t have to become a statistic. You have the power to come out ahead if you have a good plan of action.
Pre-divorce planning is not about taking your spouse for all you can. It’s about making smart choices with a clear mind. It involves carefully planning out all aspects of your life from where you are now to where you would like to be. It requires methodical preparation in the months leading up to informing your spouse you want a divorce. The more you plan, the better your position will be in your post-divorce life. Below are a few areas to start thinking about.
Finances: If you’re expecting alimony and child support to take care of your finances after a divorce, you might be in for a big surprise. Most men will fight to keep as much money as they can. This battle can result in you having a shortage of money to make ends meet after your divorce.
Career: The best way to avoid financial ruin is to make your career plans a top priority. If you’re already working but your income won’t be enough when you’re single, start re-planning your career. If that involves career counseling, re-training or going back to school, do it now while you can. Any money spent in this area will be considered joint money and not deducted from your settlement. The key, however, is doing it before you ask for a divorce.
Children: If you’re a parent, you need to be prepared for how to tell your kids about the divorce. In doing so, you also need to learn ways to help them cope and to understand how their lives will be impacted.
Support System: News of a divorce can create different reactions in your friends and family. Some people will feel threatened and fear their marriages will be at risk if they interact with you. Others, the unconditional friends, will be there no matter what. Knowing who belongs in this category is important. Those will be the people to turn to when you need a shoulder to cry on.
Future Goals: Divorce can be devastating. It’s the end of once-held goals that are now gone. Because of this, it’s very easy to get sucked into an emotional black hole of depression. The best remedy is to create new goals for your future. Take the time to consider your interests, desires and what you’d like to do with the rest of your life. Having something positive and productive to work toward will make a big difference in your emotional life.
There are many aspects to consider when planning for a life without your spouse. Instead of hoping the best will happen, take control and make sure you’re protected. If you need help making sense of it all, the Divorce Help Clinic is here for your.
Nancy Fagan-Murphy, M.S. is the founder of www.TheDivorceHelpClinic and specializes in divorce mediator and divorce planning. She is the author of “The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Romance” (Macmillan Publishing) and “Desirable Men: How to Find Them (Crown Books).
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Nancy Fagan-Murphy, M.S. is the founder of TheDivorceHelpClinic.com and specializes in divorce mediator and divorce planning. She is the author of “The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Romance” (Macmillan Publishing) and “Desirable Men: How to Find Them (Crown Books).
How to bring romance back into your life
Save Your Marriage Fast , Bring Back Your Lost Love
“There are 3 great things in this world. The first thing is for you to love someone. The second thing is for someone to love you back and the third greatest thing is for the first
and second thing to happen at the same time…”
I was talking to a bunch of friends and I found that some of them were complaining about the lack of romance in their lives, and I wondered why. One of my friends in particular I noticed complains a lot about everything and one of my friends is always happy about everything. Upon analyzing and looking at their lives I found that there was really not much difference in their lives. It was just the way they looked at things.
The way we look at things really affect us and the quality of life we lead. My spiritual guide and master, a very wise man, says focus on what you want in our life and that will grow manifold in your life. How true! My friend who focuses on the negative seems to be drowning in not so desirable situations, while my friend who always nearly focuses on the good things she has, seems so happy and content, and more and more good thing seem to come her way.
In introspection I have found the same works in my life too. Whatever I seem to focus on seems to multiply and envelopes me. The same situation if I change the way I look it again changes everything. The same situation, the same life but just the focus is different and such a different result. Now I have started focusing on what I want, and not what I don’t have. Nature has created everything in abundance and all I have to do is ask and then put my efforts towards getting it and at some point it comes my way.
The same way I was relating this to my friends. Focus on what you want. In this situation – romance. Okay, so let’s look at it. What are you doing about it? Well, at the moment, honestly nothing, except complaining about the lack of romance. So let’s turn it around. Think of what you have and what you want. So what do we have- a great spouse whom we love. Now what do we want- romance, romance rekindled, a romantic life.
Here are some easy steps to getting what you want:
• Focus on the positive
• Ask for what you desire and then surrender it
• Put forth self effort to attaining what you want.
Here is one way to jumpstart that romance and bring the zing back. Surprise them with a getaway. Nothing says romance more than a getaway. You could do it in so many ways. Send them an invite asking them to go away with you. Include a gift with the invite. You don’t have to spend money, you can write a poem or surf the net and find a poem that reflects your thoughts. Draw them a card, it’s the thought and effort that counts. Pick out some flowers from your backyard; make a cd of your favorite songs that you can bring to the getaway.
You could even put together a basket of romantic things that both you and your partner like. Some ideas for the basket would be wine, chocolate, favorite music, love coupons made out by you for your loved one to redeem, favorite romantic movie, lingerie, or some fun adult toys. If you don’t have time you can always get a basket from a store, there are plenty online, however make sure you plan for it.
There are many different ways you can plan your getaway. First surprise them with the invite and gift and then you can either keep it a complete surprise or let them know the plans. Here are some ideas:
• Weekend getaway to some place close by, a favorite bed and breakfast, or spa resort
• Long beautiful scenic drive ending with a nice romantic dinner
• Picnic at a park or favorite outdoor location. If you are planning on a picnic you could surprise them and bring a picnic basket with your most favorite foods and wines. Don’t forget the dessert. Maybe some chocolate dipped strawberries or some delicious chocolate.
If you are going away for the weekend and you have already made arrangements then you can have flowers or a gift basket waiting for your loved one at the hotel or bed and breakfast. If you have time to make the basket then customize it and make it as personal as you can. If you don’t have time you can find a nice naughty and nice basket online.
All that is between you and what you can do is your imagination. Let it run…. Rekindle the memories and the special moments you have spent together and let that inspire you to bring that spark back.
Signs of Trouble in a Marriage
Save Your Marriage , Little Known Divorce Secrets
According to reports, 50% of married couples opt for divorce as a solution for their strained relationship. But one should understand that marriages rarely die overnight. It is a process of slow destruction which sets in bit by bit. A marriage either flourishes or collapses and never remains passive. Couples rarely notice the early warnings of a crumbling relationship and a time comes when problems take a gigantic shape. By that time it is too late and nothing can be done to salvage the marriage.
Symptoms of a Troubled Marriage
Having a troubled marriage can be very heart-breaking especially if you are trying hard to make it work. Although, there is no test which can tell the intensity of the problems that a marriage is facing, there are certain symptoms to identify a troubled marriage. Some of them are listed below:
No Communication - You get to know things about your partner’s problems, career, office-related issues, and achievements through a common friend and telephone, and not directly from the horse’s mouth. Both of you have stopped confiding in each other.
Feelings about your Spouse – Somehow you have developed negativity about your spouse and you feel that whatever your spouse does is incorrect.
Constant Arguments – Arguments become more pervasive and a daily routine. Most of the time there is a repetition of old arguments over and over again without reaching a definite solution. You no longer require a reason to argue and indulge in ‘Blame-Game’ frequently. Conflicts become frequent and anger and crying becomes the order of the day.
No Outings - Outings and weekends have become a thing of the past. You rarely attend family gatherings since you are required to go there together. You avoid being with each other and even when you are together there is no communication between you.
Separate Bedrooms - Even though living under the same roof and spending hours together you don’t seem to have anything in common. You stop sharing the same bed and eventually the same room. You do daily chores as a routine and you have stopped talking and laughing together. Silence prevails most of the time and if a conversation ever happens it ends up in a fight.
Lack of Sexual Intimacy - From lovers you have turned into just roommates. You’ve stopped intimate relations with your partner. There is a considerable decline in physical affection. Intimacy is an important factor in maintaining a healthy relationship between a husband and a wife without which a marriage is incomplete.
Not Respecting Each Other – Since there is no intimacy and closeness left between both of you, gradually the respect that you have for one another also seems to evaporate into thin air. When in an argument, you don’t hesitate in calling each other names; you are not attentive to your spouse’s feelings and problems and often blame one another for everything that goes wrong.
Not Seeking a Solution to Marital Problems - Both of you exhibit a lack of willingness to solve marital problems. You see divorce as the only solution to these problems. Patience and love is replaced with contempt and resentment. You have already begun to think about divorce since you see it as the only way out.
Extra-marital Affair - The reduction in intimacy and sex results in search of other potential and prospective partners. When extra-marital affairs come into the picture, jealousy and hatred between the couple starts dominating the relationship.
Children’s Behaviour – You children’s behaviour seems to take a negative turn, all of a sudden. Affected by the stress at home, they fair poorly at school and get involved in drug abuse or alcohol or become sexually promiscuous.
The Last Word
You have to adopt a proactive role and make a deliberate attempt towards solving the problems that your married life is facing. Don’t hesitate in getting external help if you think that the intervention of a marriage counsellor will help. But, even after trying all the options to sort things out, if nothing really seems to work, then divorce is inevitable. It’s time then to start getting prepared to end your marriage once and for all.
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James Walsh is a freelance writer and copy editor. If you would like more information on how to get a quickie Divorce see http://www.quickie-divorce.com
